Slow Down, Ask for Help, and Keep It All in Perspective

Slow Down, Ask for Help, and Keep It All in Perspective

We live in a world that rewards speed—move faster, work harder, push more. But what if the very thing holding us back isn’t a lack of action, but a lack of direction?

On May 14, 1998, I learned that lesson the hard way. I crashed my car on a back road trying to get somewhere I wasn’t even sure how to find. I walked away from a totaled vehicle nearly untouched—but the message stayed with me: if you don’t know where you’re going, faster won’t get you there.

Now, every May 14th, I reflect on that day. And each year, it teaches me something new. Here’s what I’m reminded of in 2025.

1. Speed Without Direction Is Dangerous

Back then, I was lost—and speeding. Why? Because I thought speed would solve uncertainty. It didn’t. It never does. And neither will rushing through life without clarity.

If you’re feeling lost right now, more hustle isn’t the answer. Slow down. Evaluate. Be strategic. The most effective people don’t move the fastest—they move with intent.

Movement is not the same as progress.

2. There Are Still Good People in the World

That day, a stranger—a phone pole repairman—stopped and helped me call my parents. He didn’t know me. He didn’t have to stop. But he did.

In a world that often feels cold, divisive, or disconnected, we need to remember: there are good people. And if you can’t see one right now, be one.

More importantly, let people help you. You don’t get bonus points for doing everything alone. People want to support you—but they can’t if you never let them in.

3. Ask for Help Before It’s Too Late

I’m guilty of this. Trying to figure it out on my own. Trying to “power through” without admitting I’m stuck. But the truth is, nothing great is ever built alone.

Leadership isn’t about being self-sufficient. It’s about being self-aware.
If you need help, say so. If you're overwhelmed, speak up. That’s not weakness—it’s wisdom.

4. Keep It All in Perspective

Back then, I was worried about my car. About the insurance. About what people would think. I was stressed about things that didn’t matter in the grand scheme.

But when I saw my parents' faces—relief, not anger—I realized something: people matter more than things.

Your value isn’t in your job title, your car, or your resume. You matter because you’re here. And there are people whose lives are better simply because you exist.

You may never hear it. You may never see it. But I promise you—you’re impacting more lives than you think.

Final Thought:

  • Slow down.

  • Appreciate the good people around you—and be one.

  • Ask for help when you need it.

  • Keep life in perspective.

You’re doing better than you think. And someone out there is better because of you.

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