You’ll Always Find What You’re Looking For

The Power of Mental Focus and Self-Awareness

There’s a hidden truth about life most people overlook: you’ll always find what you’re looking for. I know, it sounds cliché. But let’s be honest—when you're in a negative space, doesn’t everything seem to go wrong? It’s not just bad luck. It’s your mind working overtime to confirm your own expectations. I’ve lived it, and if we’re being real, you probably have too.

A few years ago, I was asked to speak inside a state prison—my first time ever doing so. I was nervous, questioning what I could possibly say to a group of men, some of whom would never get out. Two days before the talk, life hit me—literally. I got into a five-car pileup. Face swollen. Concussion diagnosed. Doc said, “No speaking for you.”

But I went anyway. Stood in front of those inmates and told them about the wreck. Told them how my friends were laughing at how I looked like a chipmunk. But what they couldn’t see was how I felt. That talk became one of the most impactful of my life. And guess what? It came from the exact thing I was dreading. I found what I was looking for—a message—because I kept looking for it.

Your Mind Has No Sense of Humor

Your brain is the most powerful tool you’ll ever own, but here’s the catch: it believes whatever you tell it. Not because it’s wise. Because it’s gullible. If you say, “I never get opportunities,” your brain starts filtering out all the chances around you. But if you say, “Something great is about to happen,” your brain sharpens its focus to find that greatness. Your mind doesn’t laugh at jokes or sarcasm—it just accepts commands.

Think of your thoughts like seeds. You’re either planting weeds or planting fruit. If you’re constantly telling yourself, “I want to succeed but…” your brain focuses on the “but.” It loves the excuse. Why? Because your brain is hardwired to keep you safe, not successful. Comfort is the enemy of growth. You must train your mind to want discomfort. Discomfort means challenge. And challenge means growth.

Control the Lens You Look Through

I have friends who shop at Nordstrom and others who hit thrift stores. Both find exactly what they’re after. Same goes for life. Some people see problems; others see possibility. Some stare at the mountain and complain. Others start climbing. Are you focused on setbacks or setups?

You’re one set of eyes, one set of ears away from a life-changing opportunity. So you have to show up every day as if that moment is already on the way.

Blinders Are for Champions

You ever watch the Kentucky Derby? Horses wear blinders to stay focused on the finish line. You need the same. Not just metaphorical encouragement—but actual decisions that cut off distractions. If you're serious about your growth, audit your self-talk. Are your thoughts fueling your future or tying you to your past?

You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. Start small. Tomorrow morning, pause and ask: Is what I’m thinking helping me? Is it true? Or is it just fear in disguise? Over time, you’ll start speaking life into your day—and your life will follow suit.

Because in the end, we always find what we’re looking for.