The Dog Park Playbook: Lessons in Authenticity, Energy, and Consistency

Some people meditate. Others journal. Me? I go to the dog park with Bear, my Australian Shepherd who treats every trip like it’s the Super Bowl. The way he responds to the words “dog park” could power a city.

But this isn’t really about Bear—or even about dogs. It’s about what I realized, watching the chaos, joy, and awkwardness of a Saturday morning at the park. Because if you pay close enough attention, a dog park is a masterclass in how we should approach life, business, relationships, and leadership.

Lesson 1: Be Authentic—You Can’t Sustain a Life That Isn’t You

Bear doesn’t care what the other dogs are doing. He’s there to herd, run, and sprint full speed into every corner of the park. If I tried to make him chill in the “less active dog area,” he’d implode.

And yet, so many of us are living that way—sitting in the corner of a life that doesn’t fit us, because we think we’re supposed to. Because that’s what success looks like on paper. Because we’re surrounded by a peer group we’re trying to impress.

But here’s the truth: You can’t sustain energy for something that’s not aligned with who you are. So the most important career, business, or leadership move you can make? Eliminate what isn’t you.

If it drains you, it doesn’t fit you.

Lesson 2: Energy Is Your Reputation

At every dog park, there’s that dog. The one all the other dogs avoid. The vibe shifts when they walk in. No one wants to play with them. Even the oblivious Labradors steer clear.

People bring that same energy into rooms—and then wonder why they’re not getting invited back.

Here’s what I’ve learned: Talent might get you in the door, but energy determines whether you stay. You don’t have to be the loudest, most positive person in the room. You just have to be a source of calm. A “let’s figure it out” presence. The type of person people can depend on to not make things worse.

Your energy either opens doors or closes them. Check yours.

Lesson 3: Consistency Builds Belonging

Bear knows his crew. He sees the same dogs week after week, and now they’re his friends. There’s a bond. A rhythm.

That same pattern applies to human connection. We often think pouring into people requires grand gestures. It doesn’t. Most of the time, it’s just showing up consistently. Being the person who checks in. Being the one who says “I’ve got your back” even when there’s nothing flashy to gain from it.

Consistency is the most underrated leadership skill on the planet. It doesn’t get applause—but it earns trust.

Action Items

• Audit your alignment. What in your life feels forced? Drop it.

• Check your energy. If people avoid you, dig into why.

• Be consistent. Someone in your life needs to know they can count on you—today.